Kelly Marie Beckmann – McQuate loved children and children loved her back. She had a special gift of lighting up a room, and everyone, whether strangers to her or not, could sense it. Kelly was my wife for only seven days when she was killed by an intoxicated, wrong way driver (story). We were, without any doubt, soul mates. But more important than our love for each other was the love she had for her three wonderful boys and one beautiful step-daughter. Her commitment to them was beyond comparison. But, with her untimely death, came the horrible realization – the children no longer had a mother to physically and mentally guide them to adulthood. It seemed it would be impossible to handle their loss and my own recovery at the same time.
As adults we all have our own way of grieving. We may need help. We may not. In the end we understand that the death of a loved one is inevitable. But, what about the children left behind? How do we help them understand while at the same time try to grieve and understand our own loss?
Blessedly, I was introduced to an organization called Rick’s House of Hope. and, I also performed my own research of parent/sibling loss and its effects on children. I have discovered staggering statistics. For example, after the loss of a parent or sibling, children are 85 – 90 percent more likely to use drugs/alcohol to numb the pain of the loss. To complicate matters the financial impact can be enormous to the average family and most insurance companies have limited or no counseling coverage. Even harder to find is specialized attention to your child’s grief.
We at the RWK Foundation are committed to helping all children regardless of social or economic status receive the attention they need in their time of grieving the loss of a parent or sibling. That is where the life and death of one person can and will make a difference.
Thank you in advance for your time.
RWK Foundation, Inc